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Caught in the Demand-Withdraw Cycle? Here’s A Guide for Getting Unstuck

July 10, 2017 by Laurel Fay Leave a Comment

By Katie Hrapczynski, Ph.D., LCMFT In my years of being a therapist working with couples, there is one dynamic that seems to rear its ugly head time and time again. It’s called the demand-withdraw cycle. Often one partner plays the “demander” (more colloquially and pessimistically considered the “nag”) and the other partner plays the […]

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: avoidance, break the cycle, communication, conversation, couples therapy, happy marriage, happy relationship, Katie Hrapczynski, marriage counseling, marriage issue, PhD, pre marital counseling, relationship issues, therapy, Therapy Silver Spring

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